Do you have to 'put up' with someone who has a mental illness if they're assholes?

It's that time of day again to listen to a classic mikeconley11 rant which may or may not be real.

So, my auntie with paranoid schizophrenia called today (not the one I once masturbated to, that's a different one). I didn't answer because of last time.

Last time, she was talking about why I never went to prom. And of course here comes the inevitable, "did every girl reject you?" and the classic "don't feel insecure, you don't have to be good looking to get a girlfriend if you've got money. Are you still in overdraft?". Prom was 4 fucking years ago. I think she's a little salty that she's unemployed, bald and probably going to die within the next 5 years from morbid obesity.

This is the same woman who called the police on my parents about "child abuse" because her voices started speaking to her. The police came and discovered that there were no children in the house because we were all 18+ at that point and living at uni.

If she didn't have schizophrenia, no-one would talk to her. I don't understand why we have to put up with an asshole just because she's schizophrenic? If she were a psychopath (might be) then we wouldn't put up with her even though psychopathy is a mental illness.

 

So, did every girl reject you?

 

I was really shy. This girl kind of asked me but I didn't think she was being serious.

 

This guy asked me while I was at a school dance with my boyfriend.

 

Did you say yes?

 

My boyfriend later admitted that he had a crush on that guy.
Just kidding.

 

Is she seeking any form of help with her illness and is the asshole behaviour a part of her illness?

 

I think it is a part of her illness, I'm not really sure. And she's supposed to be taking medication, but I doubt she does.

 

If it’s a part of the illness I’d put up with it to an extent. I have a similar situation, can’t remember if I told you in pm about it or not. But I distance myself and only show up for important days like events and special dates etc.

 

Yeah, you did. I don't remember you saying she had a mental illness though. I think I'll do the same lol

 

Oh you might be thinking of my crazy ass mom. She hasn’t been diagnosed with anything. There’s another person with an illness that affects their brain tho rofl. I have a difficult family

 

Yup! And, no wonder you're so demented

 

Why is she bald? And I think you have to put up with her because she’s family not because she’s sick

 

Stress, medication, age probably. She's not completely bald, but it's bad enough that she should just shave it all off and hope people think she's taking chemo.

I don't think you have to speak to someone just because they're family, I don't get it

 

For me, it would depend on our relationship before the illness. If they were good to me before, I would overlook their behavior, knowing that it's the illness causing them to act in a less than desirable manner.

 

I wasn't born before she had it.

 

How about the older folks in your family...do they say she was a nice person before the illness?

 

Don't speak to my parents much and my grandma doesn't speak English. I know she ran away from home for 2 years when she was 16 and when she returned she was diagnosed.

 

Well, okay, so it seems no one really knows...but she's blood so I would try to put up with her at least some. But, if she's only going to be insulting to you, there's only so much of that a person can be expected to take. I think it's up to the older members of your family to take the lead here.

 

Misery loves company?

Maybe try a game night? Depending on your schedule, a couple times a months bring over checkers, crib, cards, dice, whatever and play with her for an hour or so.
I'm sure being alone make the crazy, crazier.
But tell her you're not going to keep coming if she's not taking her meds. Maybe having something to look forward to will keep her focused.