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Falling

Discussion in 'Relationship Advice' started by imakehersay, Feb 2, 2018.

  1. imakehersay

    imakehersay Member

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    The other day I looked at someone in my class and I think I fell into something like love, I think its mutual because its not really something I thought about or planned, I felt compelled into it, but maybe its nothing. I think this tension is all part of it. The thing is, I don't believe in love and I usually never look at anyone to avoid this happening, I want to move on from this happening but I feel stuck in it or being pulled back into it.

    Have you guys ever had a similar experience and successfully ripped yourself out of it?
     
  2. mikeconley11

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    You don't believe in love?

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    Ask her to be your valentines
     
  3. skrinkle

    skrinkle Cat Mom

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    I don’t think you can be in love without knowing everything about them first.
     
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    Love is blind, gotta go with your heart on shit like that. Sadly hearts are pretty dumb
     
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    Yeah, I don't really see love leading anywhere interesting, I guess a better way to say it is that I am not open to it. I was about to describe this encounter as a love encounter, but I hesitated and wrote 'something like love' instead because it didn't feel like the love encounters I have had before. Those encounters were already in a preset framework, I am a man over here and you are a woman over there and we are separate from each other, there is some random attraction between us, so let's try to pursue it for as long as we can.

    This didn't feel like it was in this preset framework.

    I see your point, but I think it only holds for love that happens w/in a preset framework, like I am someone over here, you are someone different over there, we have these life histories and experiences. This was all missing in this encounter, which is why it felt eerie or strange. Maybe a look can reveal or show more than a thousand questions or any knowledge? idk

    I think I am just going to forget about this.
     
  6. mikeconley11

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    How are you doing?

    Stop overthinking stuff!
     
  7. skrinkle

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    I don’t think a look can reveal anything other than physical attraction. You still don’t know anything about her, and you might not get along at all.
     
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    Yeah, I am just going to forget about it, there is no point, I am just becoming delusional. I am still nowhere lol, maybe I'll apply to grad school soon.

    That is because you are still viewing the encounter as something happening w/in a predetermined time-space. I am talking about an encounter which is an opening up of a world, language and time-space. A look can only reveal physical attraction if it takes place in a physical world, so the encounter would be taking place in that world and it wouldn't be the opening up of a world.

    Have you ever been struck by love and not followed your heart?
     
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    A few times, when I realized what my heart wanted wasn’t realistic. If someone clearly isn’t interested pursing them is an exercise in self abuse
     
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    It might not go anywhere "interesting", but you should definitely treat it as an exercise to help you become a little more open to life in general. You might actually enjoy this if you pursue this. If you catch her looking at you a lot then it's not an accident. Make a move.
     
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    I’m willing to go out on a limb and say the girl was in a predetermined time-space. If you tell her you weren’t she may get scared.
     
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    I can’t delete the thread because that would delete other people’s posts too
     
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    i dont agree with this. lust is blind. love takes time and 20/20 vision and if you still want them even though they're fucked up in X amount of ways then it's love
     
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    Sort of agree, in that love takes time

    Lust is quick and easy, and love is neither - stick two people that are overwhelmed with lust and it will be hot and heavy for a short time, and that will fade pretty fast to just finding each other annoying. Put two people together and see that take the time to get to know one another and like each other as people, and love will blossom, and by the time they get to the hot any heavy they already know there’s more to it than sex

    I’ve had hookups that I thought were love, and then you realize you don’t particularly like them as people, and it just falls to bits
     
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    What about just my posts including this one?
     
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    It wasn't about erotic love or sex, I have experienced those things when I was younger and they were not very interesting.

    The look wasn't something w/in a predetermined time-space, which is why it wasn't 'her look', if it was, then obviously it would be a happening w/in a pre-determined time-space.

    The look was its own. My hope was that it would lead to me finally losing my tongue, I'm tired of living on this tongue.

    Anyways, the feeling is gone, I saw them again today and there was no 'look', I guess its as they say: Love what you'll never believe twice.
     

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