Have you ever questioned your sexuality?

Cucumbers? I have that with onoins. I always start crying when I have to kill one.

 

I was curious in my early 20s, just wondered. I had an online girlfriend for a while that wanted me to experiment and experience, and I ended up in a situation where I could, and all curiosity evaporated before anything actually happened

 

I'm for sure not hetero. Probably I'm bi but I've never experienced anything with girls. Yes, I was into (and I still am) women but also I love to date guys. I don't know, sometimes I think I'm more homosexual than bisexual.

 

I am, too.

 

I'm questioning if I'm asexual. I'm attracted to men's appearances and I've had romantic feelings towards men, but I have no desire to have sex and I'm actually not a fan of prolonged physical contact (I dislike hand-holding, making out, etc).

I've never actually been in a relationship because I know for most a "healthy relationship" includes sex and just thinking about it gives me anxiety.

So maybe I'm heteromantic-asexual? My ideal relationship would be a platonic marriage, where we do couple-like things except for sex.

But I've also heard of people being demi-sexual, so who knows, maybe I'll form a romantic bond with someone and that will lead to sexual feelings.

 

Would you let your partner have sex with other people in a platonic way, in order to gratify that? It would be like ordering Dominoes or something, satisfying a need, and then going back to being with you.

 

Yup, that's also me. I always thought that something is wrong with me, but maybe we are just unique in that weird way.

 

Remember, there is nothing with the way anybody is. Shamans of millennia past were revered as holy people because they had the gift of schizophrenia.

 

I also am not a fan of sex or human contact but I still date and I found a boy who can put up with me

 

Looking back, I knew when I was 5-ish, but I didn't have a frame of reference for what I was feeling. Of course, I'm old . . . back when I was growing up and coming into my own, everyone was so well hidden in the closet. I didn't admit it or deal with it until I was 34 and had the Internet. Now, I finally feel comfortable in my own skin. Of course, that came at a cost.

 

What was the cost?

 

My daughter and my brother are no longer speaking to me and I have a grandchild that I only met briefly at her grandfather's (my ex-husband's) funeral. I lost all of my friends (yes, every last one of them). Then there were 2 girlfriends that were mentally/emotionally abusive. So, now, ask me why I'm happily single. LOL! Just kidding...don't ask.

 

It’s sad that people can cut someone out of their life over something that seems so normal to me

 

I've come to terms with it. My daughter thinks that by cutting me out of my granddaughter's life, she is hurting me. You can't hurt me by taking away something that I never had to begin with. Their behaviors are more about them than they are about me. It truly is their loss, not mine. I've moved on and harbor no resentment or ill-will. Life is too short for that crap.

 

I wasn't really interested in my own sexuality until the final year of high school

Then, w/out much thought, I opened myself up to women and love. I got in a few interesting relationships, but always found myself disgusted w/ the girl after a while and never felt like any of them were IT

I started reading a little bit of Lacan and later Heidegger, this led me to abandon sex or sexuality altogether

I do enjoy admiring beautiful people when I meet them here and there, but I don't feel anything erotic

 

There are many asexual people. They love the companionship of one gender or another (or both) but sex is just not part of the relationship.

 

Nope.

 

I pointed a gun at my sexuality's right temple of its head and demanded to know whether I was homosexual or heterosexual. It wouldn't tell me, so I blew its head off. That's how I became circumsized, although I took a little too much off than needed.

 

They are lucky it is still possible for them to be attracted to someone in a nonsexual way

For me, such a possibility feels almost as impossible as Christ coming back

 

I'm sorry to hear that.