If someone gets cremated

How long should you wait to spread their ashes and have a "celebration of life" ceremony?
Is 2 months a long time to let their death hover without being acknowledged?

 

I think it depends on who it is and if you loved them or hated them, lol.

 

3 to 6 weeks is usually standard. That way, people tend to have processed it emotionally, & celebration can be less tearful, & much better.

 

^I didn't know that, I assumed it would be like a funeral where you'd get it over with the same week the person died.

 

Nope, celebrations are remembering all the good stuff. We had a great time at my in-law's celebrations, & we all came home with good memories of a fun party for marvelous people. It was also their wishes for us to have a blast...food, wine, music......

 

How about good memories of the deceased?

 

That's who I'm talking about...my in-laws wanted the big parties when they died, & that's what we did!

 

Why, are you mourning Skrinkle?

 

She died?

 

No you clowns This thread is #realtalk, participate or get out

 

In the Netherlands there’s a gathering a few days after the passing, much like a funeral service. Then after the body is cremated, the ashes are kept at the crematory for at least a month (legal requirement) then the ashes are spread, put on a columbarium, or taken home by the next of kin. Usually the spreading or columbarisation (I just made up that word) is only witnessed by really close relatives and friends.

 

@Karlijn is that the only way it's done, everyone has to be cremated?

 

No, of course not, you can also be buried, or you can donate your body to science, but the percentage of people being cremated is ever increasing. Currently it’s over 60%

 

By the way, that one month is just the legal minimum. Some people wait longer, even up to several years, especially when the deceased wanted their ashes to be spread in some far away location.

 

Over 99 percent of the deceased in Japan get cremated.

 

@Karlijn How come you could say the word, "cremated"? I thought that it was too close to the word, "cream"?

 

Cream is a wonderful word, it’s almost the creamiest

But that would be creamiest

I’m creaming right now just thinking about it

 

Although, cremation is much hotter

 

@Karlijn Can you use "creamed" in a sentence? I want to see if you can without getting a "needs moderator approval" first.

 

What kind of sentence would need the word c.r.e.a.m.e.d?