If your friend has beef with someone

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  1. skrinkle

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    Do you have beef with them too?
     
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    Depends on the beef really
     
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    Nope.
     
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    Nah, I'd be more cautious when speaking to them but I'd still judge them based on their own merits. Unless they did something really bad.
     
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    Not good for them at least.

    But a friend is a real friend in my book. Not a Facebook friend.
     
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    Depends what they gone and done?
    Certain things cannot be looked over regardless of who the victim is.
     
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    This^^ if it's a petty squabble, no..
     
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    But what if your friend wants you to side with her and actively tries to her to be your enemy, too? Or what if the friend takes it as something heinous and you take it as something trivial?
     
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    I had a friend that made a huge deal out of getting her boobs and butt cheeks fondled by some guy. I didn't think that it was a big deal.
     
  10. Gus

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    Sexual harassment is srs biz.
     
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    We determine our own ethics and morality system. To me, sexual molestation is on the bottom rung of the ladder in terms of things that are wrong.
     
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    I'm pretty diplomatic when it comes to these scenarios. it can be tough when you like both and they hate each other and have done bad things to each other. Tough to stay impartial.
     
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    But why acquire that beef when it has nothing to do with you? Doesn't a person have enough problems as it is? :)
     
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    If someone does something horrible without reason, that’s a good reason to have a beef

    If one guy hurts another guy’s feelings by saying or doing something subjective that didn’t really cause any harm to anyone, and the only thing that was hurt was Jerry’s feelings and it wasn’t even intentional, there’s no beef to be had.
     
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    Proverbs 19:11 - The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
     
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    If it's serious stuff, yeah. But I don't really spend much energy on it. I just distance myself from them. It's not like I'm going to go out of my way to cause a scene or drama. I'm too old for this shit.
     
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