Discussion in 'Sex' started by skrinkle, Dec 4, 2017.
Or is it the same as viewing porn?
Ok I have a better question tho. Is being a cam girl considering cheating? Lmao
Personally I view it as a job, and not cheating. But I know I'm probably alone in that way of thinking
On the consumer side tho I'm undecided
Honestly I'm inclined to agree with you. If it's just business, a means to an end. Then who's to say that is cheating? As for the initial topic question... I don't think it's cheating to watch porn at all but let's just imagine that my bf was frequenting a particular girls cam and paying for the service regularly I'd probably be miffed.
Yeah I think in that case it's pretty close to cheating, because why is he spending time fixated on another girl? Cheating, duh lol
It's something about a s/o being able to communicate and being attracted to talking to her that really makes me uncomfortable
Okay so let's say he's fixated on her but then again she's only interacting with him for money. That to me doesn't really scream a classic cheating scenario in which two people are complicit in the act. It's more being unfaithful or something.
I can totally understand why you would be wary of the communication aspect. But then again, its her job to butter up the chums right? Tldr: cam gigs are way more interactive and as a result can to ^ fixation. Not to mention. That shit ain't free. I'd be hella judging any who pays for porn lmao.
I don’t see the appeal of having to watch cams or porn for that matter if your truly satisfied in a relationship.
But if we have to brake it down I personally don’t see any harm in watching porn
But because there’s a instant and real connection to a different person with cams I feel like that is too close to cheating I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that.
But other people are more secure then I sooo there’s that.
Do girls even watch porn or cams?
Okay, a bit off topic, but I want to respond to this because my first thought is to agree, but I think ideally I shouldn't.
I think in a sex-positive future, we'd pay for porn just like we'd pay for any entertainment. We pay to watch athletes play, and we pay to listen to musicians create music, and we pay to watch actors act. It only makes sense that we'd also pay those that create the sexual performances we enjoy.
But, of course it's currently easy to watch free porn, so it's easy not to see the need to "support" the industry. But, I'd also point out that the "free porn" economy also keeps porn from maturing. For example, there are specialized niche industries that create the "arthouse" equivalent to the mainstream porn's "blockbusters."
So, that's to say.. there IS porn for women, there is porn for all different tastes.. but only the most base level porn that appeals to the widest audience that most people think of when they think of porn. And also, by not paying for it, we maintain this idea that we're better than it, and that people who make porn are lowly and that we're not responsible for them or anything about porn, even though we're regular consumers of it.
Cheating can only be defined between those in a relationship. I guess that's obvious, but the point is that there is no set line. People can legitmately have sex with other people while in a relationship with others and have it NOT be cheating, as long as both people know about it and are okay with it. Whether that's healthy is further determined by how sustainable that decision is, and in some cases, it is. There are many arrangements that work for different people.
On the flip side, two people can both agree that porn of any kind is wrong, and that even looking lustfully at another person is wrong. If they both truly feel that way, then when one of them breaks that rule, they have cheated. Maybe it works for them, or maybe their shame and sexual repression is going to cause them heartache and misery.
I'd say usually in the latter case, people create strict rules for their partners while allowing themselves some slack, because they're really just afraid that their partner will stop loving them, and they're afraid to lose them.
Cam girls ARE an interesting middle zone between escort and pornography, because while it is still porn, it allows interaction with the actual human being who is doing the sex work. However, I think in most cases, porn users never interact with a cam girl in an intimate way. If they do, they know it is part of the act. A performance.
It asks the question, really, what is it about porn and about all kinds of sex work that differentiate between cheating and not cheating. Is looking at another person's body and being turned on okay? Is it okay to have a flirty conversation with someone? Is it better if that flirty conversation is part of an act? What about touching? Is it okay if your partner hugs another woman and enjoys it? Where is your line? It's never going to be easy to know the specifics and your partner will have different ideas. It's complex and difficult to know. Just thinking about it in a different way can change your mind... and you can think you'd be okay with something until it happens and then it feels bad.
Ultimately it comes down to being able to communicate those feelings with your partner, and being willing to hear their side of the story and hearing their side with an open mind (but knowing you don't have to accept it).
Gonna sound young and stupid here, but what's a camgirl?
Girls who masturbate on webcam for $$
I was kind of friends with one once
Talk about turning a hobby into a job...
Some make a killing
Depends on your relationship.
I have no problem with porn.
Cam girls, because they're "actual" people I'm not as okay with.
That said, SO and I are a cam couple. We're cool with people watching us and telling us what to do etc and we don't feel it's cheating even if one person is taking a more active roll for a bit. We're just not into watching others.
Do you do it because you guys find it arousing to be watched or is it more an easy way to make en extra income?
We like being watched.
It'll never make us rich but the extra money is nice. "Easy" isn't really a good way to describe it. Enjoyable is better. So is unreliable. You can be online all day and make nothing if people just aren't in the tipping mood, or you can make a hundred bucks in a couple hours. You never know.
It’s fascinating to me that you both cam but aren’t comfortable viewing other cams. I’d love to hear more about why you see that distinction.
Meh if you pay sure
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