He's a fairly typical teenager. Doesn't do anything without explicit instructions. And doesn't seem to really give a **** about anything. I dunno lol.. What do you want to know?
I had a stepson like that, only he was 22 at the time. Didn't want to come out of his room except to use the bathroom...smoked weed and played WoW for 3 days straight at a time. His mom would get pissed if I tried putting my foot up his ass. Good times.
My wife and I are at least on the same page. United front. He's got adhd, it's hard enough to get him to do anything, let alone complete a task, start to finish. Which is why there are no tv or computers in my house.
I tried explaining to the ex that we weren't doing him any favors at all letting him get away with contributing nothing to the household, and laying around smoking weed and playing a game all the time. But, being only the stepdad, I felt she should have the final say as his mom. His sister was the opposite of him, always helping out around the house, and doing much of the cooking/cleaning, and her brother would complain about her choices for meals sometimes, and I would not let that pass...I would tell him if he's unhappy with the meals, then he can get off his ass and help, or he can eat elsewhere...simple as that.
I had a hard time laying down the law the first time. I didn't think it was my place to parent a child that wasn't mine. But after a while I just couldn't handle the back talking disrespecting little shit. This is how it's going to be.
When I cooked steaks, I always made sure he got the smallest one (that didn't get as much seasoning)...does that count?
What my dad did was pretty simple but effective. If you don't do the chores then the chores don't get done. If you wanted a plate and silverware to use for eating, you had to wash them, first. If you wanted clean clothes, wash them. If you wanted homemade cooked food, cook it. Etc.
Though a pet parent to two skinny pigs, two cats and a handful of fish (plus my boyfriend has three sugargliders that I stay with part-time) I do have two kids, ages 4 & 1 (almost 2).
