Preferred pronouns

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  1. rachel67

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    Have you ever encountered someone in real life with a different preferred pronoun than what you would assume based on looking at them, and if so, how did they tell you what they’re preferred pronoun is?

    For all the talk of it online, I have never had anyone correct me in real life on pronouns. I feel like most people wouldn’t even care enough to correct someone in the first place, as it’s something that rarely comes up when having real life conversations anyways. When you’re talking to someone you don’t often use a pronoun to refer to them.
     
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    I usually use gender neutral pronouns when I’m around people I don’t know well
     
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    Does that ever get tricky? “They” usually refers to more than one person. Or does anyone ever get offended that you didn’t call them she/he? They can sometimes sound like you view a person as “other” and not equal to you.
     
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    mcpon14 Bleeds Nexopia

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    Being called an "it" is the new craze these days in California, lol. Teenagers try to make their genders as hard to tell as possible for people, lol.
     
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    Are you sure you’re not mistaking “it” with they/them?
     
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    mcpon14 Bleeds Nexopia

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    They individually want to be called an "it." They collectively want to be called them/they. :)
     
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    Not really - ideally I’ll just call someone by their name, but my memory sucks, try not to be too general, or presumptuous
     
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    No. I am very confident that you are mistaken.
     
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    If you have a male reproductive organ and get offended when I call you a man, that's your problem. Idgaf.
     
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    But what if I have a male productive organ in a jar on my desk?
     
  11. MichaelScarn

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    How exactly do you know what reproductive organs are under someone’s clothes?
     
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    If you look like a man, sound like a man, chances are... you're a man.
     
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    If you look a woman, sound like a woman, it's 50/50
     
  14. MichaelScarn

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    So then it’s not about genitals, it’s about the face and voice. Unless you’re sneaking peeks in the boys room.
     
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    Looking like and sounding like a man usually equates to have male genitals.......
     
  16. MichaelScarn

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    But you can’t be sure unless you look, you naughty boy ;)
     
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    What if they have had the surgery to remove it?
     
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    Still can't remove that Y chromosome.
     
  19. Squire72

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    There are cases where a man develops as a woman - their bodies are immune to testosterone.

    And people that have XXY chromosomes, who are genetically neither man nor female

    It’s not all in the brain - a lot of it is, but there are physical differences in the way male and female brains work, and they’ve found many transgender people’s brains are wired the same way as the gender they believe they should be. We’re not talking a mental illness or delusional thinking, it’s a structural thing, and their brains are wired that way
     
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    All men are women before hormones change that. How thicc is your raphe line?

    Anyways, to answer the question, I have never had someone tell me their preferred pronoun and I have never misgendered anyone to their face because I don’t use gender language when speaking to people. If I spoke a language that used gender in conversation I would ask first if it wasn’t visually clear to me.
     
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