I had a seemingly very good date tonight where I met up with a girl off an online dating site for coffee. We hit it off really well both online and in person. The conversation came easily, there was no awkward silence, we had lots of laughs, and she was showing signs that she had taken at least some kind of interest in me. It seemed like all had gone well and I was certain I was going to get a second date but shortly after I get the always dreaded text saying that she just didn't feel chemistry or a strong enough attraction to want to date me. As an isolated thing, this wouldn't bother me at all. I would just chalk it up to experience and move on to the next. This has become a trend though that's happened over and over again for years with no signs of changing regardless of what type of girl I go for, what we do, or what we talk about, etc. I've gone ahead and asked several of them when I had the opportunity in some of these situations what it was that put them off or what I did wrong so that I could learn from it in the future. The answer I always get is that although they'd like to help me, they can't come up with anything. They say that I did nothing wrong, usually that they enjoyed spending time with me, but can't pinpoint anything specific that they didn't like about me.. just that they didn't feel a "spark" or "attraction" or something along those lines. It doesn't make sense to me but if that's the only answer they can give then that's the answer I kind of just have to accept. I'm just wondering what your opinions are of a situation like this and why a thing like that would happen so consistently over such a long period of time. I'm not terrible looking irl, I'm young, educated, have a reliable full time job, I drive, I have my own place, I'm a pretty decent conversationalist once I get going, I put effort into my appearance for a date, I can usually make people laugh, and I'm genuine with the people I meet. Sorry for the tl;dr post but uhh.. where do I even go from here?