What do you guys feel is an appropriate amount of time

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  1. handbanane

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    Before asking someone you're seeing to be exclusive? Has it depended on a number of dates for you? How far apart the dates were?

    I just had a really awesome 4th date with the girl I'm seeing last night and things are going awesome. Nothing is official yet but I'll be seeing her again at the end of the week. By then it'll have been 5 dates over the course of a couple weeks and I'm really feelin it, so I'm thinking of asking her then.
     
  2. Squire72

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    Maybe tread lightly, that’s pretty quick

    Not saying it’s a bad idea at all, just going all full commitment/marriage etc might come off too strong. Ease in :)
     
  3. The Punjabi Playboy

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    Lmao 5 dates? Fucking eh. Thirsty af.
     
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  4. In.Chains

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    Not sure, depends on the girl really, I've never gone past a couple dates with a girl without them asking the question so from experience I'd just wait until they ask.
     
  5. mikeconley11

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    Yeah, 5 dates is enough.
     
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  6. handbanane

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    How is marriage even coming into this discussion rn?
     
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  7. handbanane

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    I've never had the girl bring it up first before. It's always been me.
     
  8. The Punjabi Playboy

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    And that's why you've never been able to keep a woman
     
  9. The Reverend

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    Women are naturally subservient, and putting them in a position of authority is unnatural. You, as the man, have to say, "this is how it's gonna be, see?" Women want a strong man who'll tell them what to do. ;)
     
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  10. Squire72

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    I wasn’t assuming, just suggesting that mentions of more committeemen this should be broached slowly and carefully - want this to work for you, I think it’s fantastic :)
     
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  11. Gus

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    I’ve never dated someone who had several other guys on standby while getting to know me. Exclusivity comes standard from day one in my experiences.
     
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  12. handbanane

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    I'll see if it feels like the right time and tread a bit carefully, yeah. She seems just as into me though so I have a pretty good feeling about it.
     
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  13. handbanane

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    It's pretty much the norm with online dating, although I don't get the impression that's what's happening here. Assuming you're exclusive/bf and gf when that hasn't been discussed is playing a dangerous game.
     
  14. Gus

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    That’s true I suppose, if you have doubts then you shouldn’t wait. Have the talk asap.
     
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  15. skrinkle

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    I’ve only had that talk once, and it was because we had been doing date type stuff for months but it didn’t feel like we were bf/gf. Usually I prefer to just go with the flow and let it happen on its own without asking.
     
  16. handbanane

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    I just find that way too ambiguous and I really hate things that are ambiguous or uncertain when it comes to this stuff.
     
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  17. Wrecky

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    I really like your new pic :hearts:
     
  18. handbanane

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    Well that was easy. I guess she'd been thinking of doing it but didn't want to seem like she was moving too fast.

    Tinder bae has become bae. Things are lookin pretty good rn, you guys. :pray:
     
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  19. skrinkle

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    Omg yay :party:
     
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  20. handbanane

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    I think I found a good one this time, fam.
     

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