Discussion in 'Adults Only' started by Lucian Hodoboc, Jun 4, 2018.
What are you opinions about men who allow their girlfriends or wives to work as strippers?
I don’t think a man (or woman) has any right to tell their significant other what they can or cannot do. If a guy is uncomfortable with them doing that sort of thing, perhaps they shouldn’t date a stripper
Date someone who fits within your own personal boundaries
Yeah, you don’t allow her to do anything. You aren’t her keeper. If you don’t like what she does, you shouldn’t be with her.
Well, my argument is that, say, me being a stripper is what attracted you to me in the first place, so you can't get mad at me for being one after you started dating me. This holds true, even if I wasn't a stripper when you first met me because, in that case, it would be my stripper tendencies that attracted you to me in the first place, instead.
That's a pretty black and white way of thinking. So, if you love someone and the path they've chosen in life led them to self-destruction, you should just allow them to go on that path instead of trying to improve their life? You're talking about romantic relationships as if they were contractual connections without any feelings involved.
Allow is a strong word
You should not choose to remain with someone who has decided to follow a life path you don’t approve of
No individual gets to make choices for another individual except in the cases of guardianship or incarceration - and even then, they have rights. Self determination is a right - if they want to be a stripper, only they have a right to make the choice
You can certainly suggest you would not approve of that - whether they take your position into consideration is their choice. Once you’ve told them that bothers you, the rest of the process is their decision, which you have no say in. What you have the power to do is decide whether you can abide that decision, whether to stay or go - what they do is up to them.
"allow" I can't even with this thread
Here's the thing: the word "allow" assumes that you as the partner are in control of her life. You are not. You may not like the path that she has chosen and you are free to make your feelings known, but you have the right to declare yourself her morality interventionist. Relationships ARE contractual connections (verbally and emotionally) and are wrought with feelings on BOTH sides. She may not see anything wrong with what she is doing even though you do. Stripping is not illegal (mostly). Not sure if I follow the train of thought that stripping is self-destructive and keeps someone from improving their lives. There are many professional woman that made money that way in order to support themselves, pay for college, etc. I know of one lawyer, 2 doctors, and a psychologist that paid for college this way. And should she choose to make stripping her vocation, then again, that is her choice. Bottom line is that if the two involved cannot find a way to compromise then the door is open for them to make an exit out of the relationship - the contract can be broken. Happens all the time.
What if they're married?
like shrinkle said. u cant allow or disallow a girl to do anything. if u dont like what she does for a living then dont date her in the first place
I don't know, man. Here's what The Bible says about a husband's authority over his wife:
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:4)
thats so antiquated tho man. why would u wanna limit ur girl like that?
Human rights man. The bible has lots of “rules” that are illegal - it was written by men who were okay with people being property.
Slavery is illegal now
dude u gotta let em spread their wings like the Phoenix's they are
if I'm doing something stupid or I'm off my game i want a girl to be able to tell me dude smarten up whats ur fucking problem
If she was stripping before they married and he didn't like it, he shouldn't have gotten married. You can't get into a relationship (married, dating, sleeping with) expected to "change" the person. It doesn't work that way.
And that is now against the law. It's called rape, abuse, being held captive.
Yous talking like being a stripper is self destructive.
I've known a few women over the years who were strippers and they all had significant others and one was even married and had three children. They were just like any other woman, loyal, faithful and so forth. They just chose to use their looks and dancing talent to make a living. Personally I don't see anything wrong with having a woman who's a stripper, as my last ex wife was a bartender and that was almost the same. I'd sit at the bar and watch and listen to countless men of all ages hit on her all night, every night. I found it somewhat of a turn on .
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